Good news on the kitty front. There are plenty of places willing to take him (including one in North Carolina that will provide transport), and according to a person who is somewhat of an expert in FIV-infected cats, it’s really not that high a risk for us to keep him.
We’re told that it takes a deep puncture wound to infect other cats, and since a.) he’s de-clawed and b.) he’s a big baby, the chances that he’ll do any harm to them is small. The other cats might attack him, but he’d run and hide. So, it’s seeming more likely that he’ll be hanging around for a while longer.